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My wife and I have 3 kids. I also have 3 kids from a previous marriage. How should we split our house among these 6 children?

The Moneyist responds: ‘There is one meticulous, if slightly churlish, way of slicing this cake’

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By Quentin Fottrell, MarketWatch

Dear Moneyist,

I am a remarried father of three boys and three girls; three of those children are from a previous marriage. My wife and I are looking to buy a house next year.

She recently told me that she is going to put it in her name only, as she is worried about my previous kids staking a claim on their portion of the house from my contribution. She said she is looking out for our three shared kids, but she is not considering my other three children.

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When my wife’s father died he had other children, and an estate dispute ensued. I told her that we can establish conditions in our will to determine how the home is divided. I have reservations about jointly purchasing a home only to have my three kids cut out of any inheritance it may generate.

I understand that my wife wants to ensure our mutual kids are cared for. But if we are going to equally pay for the mortgage, my prior children deserve a part of that investment, right?

Loving Father Divided

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Dear Loving Father,

Right. Don’t pay for a house if your name is not on the deed. Your wife may be fearful about her children’s future based on her own family history, as you say. But there shouldn’t be a winner and a loser in this scenario. Even if she did as she says, this house would most likely be treated as marital/community property, anyway. Bottom line: You are partners, as well as husband and wife.

There are many ways to slice this cake. Suggestion No. 1: Treat all six children equally, while taking account of any lump sum that you each contributed. Suggestion No. 2: Slice the pie nine ways, and give your shared children two slices each, and give your own children one slice each. That seems like a meticulous, if slightly churlish, way of splitting this inheritance. Assuming there will be one.

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In an ideal world, divide the house six ways and treat all six children the same. That would honor the “what’s yours is mine, and what’s mine is ours” marital agreement in spirit and practice. That is easier for you, of course, than your wife.

But given your wife’s concerns, suggestion No. 2 may be the most realistic option. Let me know what you finally agree upon. I am interested to know the outcome.

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Quentin Fottrell is MarketWatch's personal-finance editor and The Moneyist columnist for MarketWatch. You can follow him on Twitter @quantanamo.

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