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July 22, 2020, 1:22 p.m. EDT

This 86-year-old psychologist has some advice on how older Americans should prepare to re-enter society — and how their kids and grandkids can help

‘The stereotypes of old age are not true’ — she says, satisfaction and freedom are available to people of all ages

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By Alessandra Malito, MarketWatch

Katharine Esty understands the impacts the pandemic is having on older Americans who yearn for their routines — after all, she’s an 86-year-old psychologist who misses going to her office every day to meet with clients.

Esty, who is also the author of “Eightysomethings: A Practical Guide to Letting Go, Aging Well, and Finding Unexpected Happiness,” has seen the effects of the coronavirus crisis on older Americans first hand, but said not all of it has been negative. Many older Americans are still stuck in their homes, or told to stay away from others for risk of complications from contracting the disease, or their nursing homes or assisted living facilities may still be restricting visitors. Still, this has been a time for them and others to reconnect with loved ones, such as scheduling regular phone calls or taking up a new or neglected hobby.

Esty spoke with MarketWatch about how the crisis is affecting older Americans, what they and their loved ones can do to help and how to prepare for a post-pandemic world. This interview was edited for clarity and length.

See: Be on the lookout for COVID-19’s hidden cost to older people

MarketWatch: How has this pandemic affected older Americans, beyond of course their physical health?

Katharine Esty: First of all, there are people who are feeling emotionally up and down a lot of the time. They get very lonely when they’re cut off from their grandchildren and in some places they live, such as a retirement community like me, they’ve been stuck in their apartments by themselves for three months. They are lonely, and loneliness we know can also affect physical health. To feel you can’t be in touch with anyone who matters to you is huge.

Also, the fact that we have been hearing an emphasis that if we get it it’ll be very serious and we’re the age group most at risk of dying. Older people, in their 80s, are used to that concept but I noticed the level of anxiety for our kids — people in their 50s and 60s — is high because they’re new to the idea that there could be something dangerous around.

There are some things that are good. The pandemic made people less busy and just have time for whatever they want, like to read, call friends. It’s not 100% negative. But I know that what has been really hard for everyone who is aging is that some important events were canceled. They missed a wedding, or a graduation of a grandchild, and there is grieving to do.

MW: Is there anything they can do if they’re grieving for those moments or lonely?

Esty: Developing a routine fills your time and keeps you healthy too. People can take care of themselves. I take care of myself. And they can do that if they keep moving, walking, dancing, exercising. People are meditating, which helps me wind down and be more at peace. They can also have a routine, such as scheduled regular phone calls with grandchildren or children. Take the initiative. The main thing is to keep talking. My generation is more comfortable on the telephone than zoom but zoom has been a godsend. My colleagues and friends have learned how to zoom since March and routine is key.

I have been talking to my clients about starting a new project. They can be writing a memoir, for example. I can’t tell you how many people in my group of therapists have become birders — it is a good adaptation of being isolated and you make friends with the birds.

MW: Being stuck in the house or away from loved ones has made many Americans, of all ages, become anxious about the uncertainty of this crisis. How can people cope, especially if they’re older?

Esty: They’re anxious because they know it can all be so serious and they’re also anxious when they feel they read that when everything reopens, older people should probably stay home because they’re still vulnerable. There’s a lot of pandemic fatigue — when they thought everything would be open in September, and now November or February or next year — the idea of a whole year not seeing your grandchildren or your friends is very, very hard. That time horizon for all of us is a huge amount of time to be outside of your normal life and it is particularly hard for older people when they think they may not have as many years to see their grandchildren.

That’s why people have to do everything they can to keep themselves occupied. I am a great believer in work. I am one person who thinks work and projects and a focus is useful at all ages. I’m still working and have a private practice and write on a blog , and I think that’s good. I think children and grandchildren of people who are quarantined or not feeling good can reach out, and knowing even when someone says they’re fine they may be hurting. It means a lot when other generations reach out.

MW: Why have you stayed in the workforce?

Esty: I have always had jobs that have been very stimulating, from teaching to running a consulting firm. I was one of the people who felt work was as much fun or more fun than what was called fun. It was just very engrossing. I had my own business for 20 years, and felt I still wanted to do that. I don’t have the energy I used to when I write — two hours is a big chunk of time — but it still brings me that pleasure. I am sad not to go to the office anymore. Before the pandemic, I went to the office every day. I would get dressed and see clients and come home and it kept me in touch with the world. It was a way I loved to live. I miss the idea of getting up and going to the office.

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